It wasn’t until I finally freed myself from a toxic relationship that I realized how much I was being held back. How much a relationship was disabling me from being happy and ultimately being myself.
Staying in a relationship with the wrong person obviously sucks. But beyond the unhealthy toxic relationship it’s also an incredibly blinding experience to stick with someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you. And by that I mean being with someone who does not think you are absolutely amazing.
Being in an unhealthy relationship can truly change you as a person, and you mostly don’t realize until you’re out of the relationship.
Being with the right person who loves you, and constantly puts you first, and shows selflessness is so freeing. You have the confidence to make decisions and do things without having this overbearing cloud of fear hovering over you, paralyzing you in your steps because you fear if you make the wrong decision, he’ll leave you again. You don’t want to do certain things because you’re concerned with how it will affect the relationship, but this is the first sign that you’re in the wrong one. Trust me. When you’re with someone who makes you feel “crazy” think about where that comes from. You feel crazy because he has a tinder while you’re together and girls have messaged you regarding it, which then causes trust issues. But now you’re crazy because you’re paranoid? That doesn’t make you crazy it makes you aware. When the trust is broken you’re not crazy for thinking whatever happened to you once will happen again. You’re not crazy, you’re bruised and trying to pick yourself up from whatever broke you. You’re trying to prevent that from happening again. And when you meet the right guy who doesn’t make you have a lingering fear of mistrust in the back of your mind. You will feel empowered and safe which will allow you to not feel held back. This feeling is not heard, it’s felt in your soul. Being with the right person gives you this feeling of security, an unsaid approval.

When you can go out with your friends and not have to worry what he’s up to because you two have good communication and trust. You can plan trips to go travel and explore and you don’t have the lingering pain of if the relationship will last. Or you don’t fear that you should not go based off of your relationship. You trust that what’s meant to happen will naturally happen. It won’t be a huge betrayal because you two respect each other and communicate. You support each other and build each other up, and deep down you only want the best for each other. There’s this effortlessness to it. It’s so freeing and fun. There isn’t any stress or weight on your shoulder with every thought or decision. It’s cohesive and runs smoothly.

Male or female, you deserve a love that has no limits. A love that pushes you and empowers you to be the best version of yourself and go after what you want. You deserve someone who doesn’t make you worry all the time. So be worry-free starting right now and feel supported, not weighed down.

Stop chasing after the wrong kind of love because the right love is out there waiting for you, and it feels SO GOOD.